THE WAHALA OF A MINIMUM OF TWO YEARS WORKING EXPERIENCE

Hello guys, hope you all doing good? First of all, let me wish all my readers Happy New Year. It is my prayer that next year by this time God would have granted you all your heart desires in Jesus name. Amen. It’s been a while. I was busy cooking something up for you. I started writing this message on 14th. October, 2015 but due to the situation I was in I had to postponed the writing to another time even though the atmosphere was conducive. On 9th. October, 2016, the situation was much better and the atmosphere was also conducive so I decided to continue with the writing. In today’s message, I decided to come up close and personal. So enjoy while it last because I might not do it again depending on the outcome of today’s message or response from my readers. AS USUAL, THE IDEA BEHIND MY MESSAGES IS TO MOTIVATE MY READERS AND TODAY’S MESSAGE IS NOT AN EXCEPTION. SO DON’T GET ME WRONG AND THINK THAT I’M COMPLAINING TOO MUCH AND POURING OUT MY FRUSTRATIONS TO MEN INSTEAD OF POURING THEM OUT TO GOD OR SAY I SHOULD DO LESS TALKING AND DO MORE PRAYING TO GOD. FOR YOUR INFORMATION, I’VE DONE THAT ALREADY AND MY PRAYERS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED. SO THE WAHALA IS ‘PASSCO’ NOW AND I JUST WANT TO SHARE IT AS A FORM OF TESTIMONY AND ALSO TO MOTIVATE MY READERS. SO PLEASE DON’T GET IT TWISTED. THANK YOU. As usual the inspiration for today’s message came to me some few weeks after I published the message entitled WHAT IS LOVE??? But this inspiration came in a different form from the usual way. Normally before I write, something happens to me before to make me feel either angry or sad and in a way of pouring out those emotions I write it all out of me. This is the main source of my motivational messages. This is not the best of form of inspiration but that has been fueling my writings over the years. This is my seventh year in blogging. I’m still young in blogging and hope to achieve more before I quit. Yeah there is time for everything and a time is coming that I can no longer publish again but until then lets enjoy what the good Lord Jesus Christ has given us. I got the inspiration for today’s message from a friend. His name is Mr. Steward Osei Bawuah. He is the Chief Executive Officer (C.E.O.) of Childlift Aid Foundation. He formed a Whatsapp group for the foundation and asked me to share my experience in teaching and how it will help the foundation on the group page with the group members but little did he know that these days I struggle to write and that something will have to happen to me first (either good or bad) before I can write which was not the best. In view of this I couldn’t honor his request but it triggered today’s message for it to flow out of my spirit hence my reason for acknowledging him. I was sitting in my room one afternoon so exhausted after moving from one office to the next dropping application letters for job which was not fruitful after all the effort then I started pondering over what the C.E.O. asked me to do wondering how I could use it to motivate people. After hours of brainstorming I got something to share with you guys. I wanted to wait till I get a full time job or a contract before I start writing today’s message but a Whatsapp message from a Senior High School classmate of mine by name Miss Georgina Agonyo touched me and made me feel sad (the right mode for me to write) forcing me to start writing the message on 14th. October, 2015. I’m using the word forcing because when the atmosphere for my writing is created and I don’t write most of the time I forget the stuffs I want to write. Sometimes I don’t get them back and end up writing something different. I don’t know where she had the message from but big ups to whoever composed it. I will like to share that message with you before I proceed with today’s message because that is part of the motivation for today’s message. Before I share the message I would like to acknowledge Mr. Obed Adukonu and Miss Edith Mantey for helping me retrieve the Whatsapp message after I lost the message due to one year and some days interval between the first part of the writing and the second part of the writing.

I am sharing this message because it is what inspired me to start writing today’s message on 14th.October, 2015 instead of the initial plan of starting to write it after I get a job. I had been in the house for four months and was going through a lot of disappointments, frustrations, worries and sadness (WAHALA) although it was just four months of joblessness. For instance, the advance of my single room was going to expire on 29th. January, 2016. We were in October, 2015 and I still had no job. How then do I pay for the advance not to talk of the monthly utilities? I couldn’t count the number of jobs I had applied for but countable number of interviews yielding no results because of A MINIMUM OF TWO YEARS WORKING EXPERIENCE IN THAT JOB LEAVING ME WITH AN OPTION OF JOINING THE ASSOCIATION OF UNEMPLOYED GRADUATE WHICH I REFUSED TO. MY QUESTION WAS WHO SHOULD GIVE ME THE TWO YEARS WORKING EXPERIENCE? Some friends were also not picking my calls anymore because they knew the guy was calling to borrow money while he was drowning in a pool of debts and they were tired of it. Some ladies also turning down my proposals because they thought the guy was a broke ass nigga and to crown it all jobless leaving me to think of staying a bachelor for good which I refused to. I can’t share all the disappointments, frustrations, worries and sadness (WAHALA) with you today otherwise I will not be able to start today’s message. One thing I know for sure is that it is well in Jesus name and that with God nothing is impossible. I didn’t seek comfort or face reality by drinking alcohol or taking drugs. How then did I deal with all the disappointments, frustrations, worries and sadness (WAHALA)? You will find out at the end of my message. Although I had a part time teaching job that I use to do but the income was nothing to write home about hence the reason why I didn’t consider it as a job. You just imagine spending all your income from a job on transportation with nothing to save at the end of the month. Should you fall sick which money will you use to go to the hospital? Again imagine that you are renting a single room. Which money will you use to pay your rent and the utility bills? This was just some scenarios. Well, I will leave the rest for you to ponder on. I believe your question now will be why I was still doing the part time job? Well, you will find out by the end of my message. Now to the message I want to share. When I received this message, I felt the author was writing about me because everything in the message was exactly what I was going through in life at that moment. I was so touched and sad at the same time. The exact mode (right situation or atmosphere that allows me to write a lot out of my spirit) for my writing.

This was the message my Senior High School classmate shared and I quote “The most difficult age for any man should be between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be someone important is so immense. When you look around you everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than you ever imagined. Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age when if not careful, one is consumed by alcohol or drugs, because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land good jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner; mostly they don’t even cut you out directly but you are real with yourself and cut yourself off. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you stay around, the greater the pressure to be someone important takes a toll on you. Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone on the market or how British Airways offer shit services and you can feel your heart whisper to you “You don’t fit in here”. But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays. To imagine that three to four years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to either picking and dropping off letters or being sent for cheap lunch by the employees. This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t matter; you have resorted to surviving. The worst mistake you can do during this period is to try dating; there is nothing a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How do you have time for evening romantic talks when you are tired from walking and delivering letters in offices around town? What are you going to tell your lady when she says she wants to go see a movie or go for dinner with you? Will you say that your financial religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to be with dating or getting married to guys 10years older than you. And you can’t blame them; it’s only that your life seems to progressing slower than their goals in life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28years and if by then your life is still in disarray like Sunderland’s performance in the English Premier League for the 2016/2017 football season then my friend, be prepared for a walk out.”

I agree with everything this writer said and as you’ve seen in the above, I’ve had my fair share of the cake. The bone of contention for today’s message is WORKING EXPERIENCE. So let me share with you how I acquired my WORK EXPERIENCE, the kind of jobs I applied for, secured and how much experience I acquired in those jobs I secured. As I said earlier, I was in the house for four months without a full time job or a contract. I had applied for so many jobs with about 70% of them being teaching jobs and 30% being Information Technology jobs. I had countless number of calls for interviews for teaching jobs I applied for but countable number of interviews for Information Technology (I.T.) jobs. Don’t jump the gun thinking that it was because I applied for more teaching jobs than Information Technology jobs. Work Experience was the reason. I had more experience in teaching jobs and zero experience in I.T. related jobs. This was due to the fact that I taught before I started my tertiary education and also during my long vacations from the university. I taught for five months in a primary school before I got admission to the University. Also before every long vacation, I normally take internship letters from the university and send them to schools preferably Junior High Schools seeking for permission to teach at their school during the long vacation as a form of internship for me. Each internship lasted for two months. I wanted to teach for a while after my tertiary education and then go back to school to do my masters. That was my plan way back in level 200 before I completed the university but as the Holy Bible says, man plans but God disposes. After tertiary, I was posted to the same university which I completed to do my national service as a teaching assistant. I wanted to teach after school but not at that high level. I still accepted it since it was also teaching and was going to add up to my teaching experience. After one year of national service, I was given a year contract to work still as a teaching assistant which I accepted. Apart from increasing my income, this contract also increased my work experience in teaching. I also got the chance to teach in a Remedial school and an I.T. training school as a part time tutor alongside during this period which gave me more teaching experience. After this contract, I was expecting another one year contract but was told that the government went for an IMF loan and as part of the conditionalities, they were not to employ people into the public sector for certain time frame. My contract ended in June 30th. 2015 and from 1st. July, 2015 I was home without a full time job or a contract. After all these jobs, I realized I had acquired approximately TWO YEARS WORKING EXPERIENCE IN TEACHING and I felt I was ready for the JOB MARKET. Not until I was home for four months after all this EXPERIENCE then I realized that there is more to it than I thought.

I was getting more calls for interviews for teaching jobs I applied for because I had more experience in teaching compared to I.T. related jobs. As I said earlier, I had no working experience in the I.T. related jobs. The few interviews I went for with the I.T. related jobs I couldn’t secure the job because I had no working experience and that is my perception. NOW MY QUESTION IS WHO SHOULD GIVE THIS WORKING EXPERIENCE? SINCE NOBODY IS READY TO TRAIN THE INEXPERIENCED TO GET EXPERIENCE, HOW WILL WE MOVE FORWARD AS A NATION? There is also this perception that when companies train these inexperienced graduate, they will leave for big monies from other companies when the opportunity present itself. Comparing these two perceptions, I think the former outweighs the later from the information I gathered before publishing this message. I had more experience in teaching but why was I not securing the job? The first reason was due to certification as a trained teacher. I was an untrained teacher even though I hold a Bachelor of Science Honors degree in Physics and Computer Science. So the interviewers suggested I pursue Post Graduate in Education and try applying for the job again. This was another reason I couldn’t secure the I.T. related jobs that I went for interviews for. Some employers were looking for Cisco Certified Network Administrator, Oracle Certified Database Administrator and so on, in addition to first degree in Computer Science or Information Technology that the applicant was holding. These certifications were expensive to acquire and could take one a minimum of a year or two to acquire. Here I was with just a first degree in Physics and Computer Science and no experience in I.T. related jobs. I guess you can easily predict the result. The second reason was salary. For a first degree holder, I was expecting a net salary of thousand plus Ghana cedis monthly which these employers were refusing to pay. Some were offering a net monthly salary as low as four hundred Ghana cedis which I found insulting to me. Some were also brave enough to offer as low as five hundred Ghana cedis net monthly salary which I didn’t just understand. I can’t think far. I can’t think madness. The most annoying thing was that some of these employers will tell you that is what every first degree holder is taking home. Well, I am not part of them. I am a special first degree holder among the few who will stay home till that better offer comes along the line. I entered the fifth month and that was November 2015 with situations still the same. Looking at all the experience I had acquired in teaching, I decided to setup my own Home Tuition Company. So I designed some posters and posted them in my area and areas where we had Senior High Schools situated hoping to get calls from Parents interested in my services. My target group here was Senior High School students even though I could teach at all levels from Primary School level, Junior High School level, Senior High School level, International Baccalaureate (I.B.) Physics, Mathematics and Computer Science to University level (Undergraduate level). For the various subjects I teach, I have all Science, Mathematics and Computer Science or Information Technology (I.T.) or Information and Communications Technology (I.C.T.) courses. I teach Science, Mathematics and Information and Communications Technology at the Primary and Junior High School level, Elective Mathematics, Core Mathematics, Elective Physics, Information and Communications Technology and Integrated Science at the Senior High School level, International Baccalaureate Physics, Mathematics and Computer Science, and Physics and Computer Science courses at the University level (Undergraduate level). This is all possible because of first and foremost God’s grace, secondly my science background and last but not the least my experience. I read General Science in Senior High School and Physics and Computer Science at the University level. Some few days later, I realized my posters were been removed with no call from any parent yet. I became disappointed but didn’t give up. I decided to go out and share my posters to students when they close from school especially senior high school students. I don’t just share the posters but I equally talk to them about the services I offer and how it can help them excel in their WASSCE (West African Senior School Certificate Examination). This went on for some days but still not even a missed call from a parent. I became disappointed again but still didn’t give up. I then decided to share my posters in any public transport I take but still not even a flash from a Parent. I didn’t give up and went ahead to make the announcement of my Home Tuition at Church. I finally got my first call from a parent after the announcement at church. I talked to that parent about my services and how much I charge for my services. They said they will call me later in the week to finalize the deal but never heard from them again. I called that Parent again and was given that same old story. I got three different calls from three different Parents and still the deals were not going through telling me the same story I heard from the first Parent. I later realized that my price tag was above their expectation which was the reason the deals didn’t go through. I have worked with a Home Tuition Company before and felt my price tag was reasonable. These four different calls were as a result of my announcement at church. I was getting more frustrated and disappointed. Still in the fifth month without a full time job or contract, I got a call from a school to come for interview. This reminded me of lectures on campus during my days as an undergrad in the university. Interviews turned into lectures I go for everyday and there was nothing special about it anymore. I became complacent but I was still going for them so I went to this school for the interview. I applied for the position of a Mathematics teacher. Unfortunately, I got to the school and met graduates from the University of Education, Winneba with good amount of WORK EXPERIENCE. I felt I had lost the job already so I should just leave the school premises but the Holy Spirit told me to stay. It got to my turn to be interviewed and I went in. After the interview, I was told to go. They didn’t even say they will call me or you will hear from us. That was when I realized I had truly lost the job. I came home so disappointed. I went to church and was given prophetic directions, I followed them but still the situation was the same. I became desperate so I ended up accepting a five hundred Ghana cedis net monthly salary job offer. A night before I could start that job, I called the General Manager of that institution and asked whether he can increase the salary. He was still adamant and insisted that they can only pay the five hundred Ghana cedis net monthly salary which I remember very well I rejected similar offers some time ago. So I told him I’m sorry and that I am no more interested in the job offer. The WAHALA was becoming too much but I kept on applying for jobs and praying to God to make a way with Kwabena Kwabena’s song Bue Kwan becoming my daily anthem. I still had faith in God that He was going to make a way and grant me a job. I entered the sixth month and that was December 2015 still with no full time job or a contract. I was getting worried thinking about those I borrowed money from and the rent advance for the single room I rented which expires in January 2016. In the second week of December 2015, I had a message from the last school I went for interview. The one I applied for the position of a mathematics teacher and after the interview was told to go without even saying they will call me or that I will hear from them. I read the message and it read ‘You will be engaged in a one year fixed contract to write a quick revision book in your subject area and that I should reply the message to confirm my participation’. They didn’t talk about money in the message but I realized it will be a good package so I replied the message. I got to the school and guess what? One of the University of Education graduates I met during the Interview section secured the job and that he was the new Mathematics teacher for the school. I was also given a fixed one year contract as a Full Time Researcher for the Quick Revision book in the area of Information and Communications Technology (I.C.T.). I signed the contract on 22nd. December, 2015 and the remuneration was 12,000 Ghana cedis. I started writing the book and on 25th. January, 2016, an amount of 2000 Ghana cedis was deposited in my account as part payment of my remuneration. I quickly called my landlord and paid another one year advance for my rent which expires on 29th. January, 2016. I also called all those I was owed and paid all my debts. I became a ‘free man’ again. E.L.’s song Koko became my new daily anthem. Beloved, we serve a living God. The only one who knows the end from the beginning. To Him be glory forever and ever. He holds my every moment. He calmed my raging seas. He walked with me through fire. Healer of my diseases. I trust in You Lord Jesus. Nothing is impossible for You. You hold my world in your hands. I believe You are my Healer. I believe You are all I need. I believe You are my portion. I believe You are more than enough for me. Jesus Christ, You are all I need. God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all you could ask of him according to the power that works in us. God is able to do just what He says He will do. He is going to fulfill every promise to you. Don’t give up on God because He won’t give up on you. He is able. God, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit, I just want to say thank you.

I went through this WAHALA for five months. It wasn’t easy but God was faithful. I don’t know what you are going through as you read this message. You can be a degree holder like me without a job. May be your joblessness started after National Service or a job or two after National Service like me. As a motivator and counselor, I will encourage you to have faith in God, keep on applying for jobs and going for interviews and last but not the least keep on praying to God to make a way for you as He did for me. I stayed home for five months with no full time job or contract even though I had some part time jobs which were nothing to write home about since I was spending all the income from those part time jobs on transportation and utility bills with nothing left to save at the end of the month. So then why was I still doing those part time jobs? You will find out at the end of today’s message. I stayed home for just five months but you might have stayed home for more than five months. I know some of you have stayed home for a year without a job. Some have even stayed home for two years without a job contemplating whether it was a good idea to further your education to the University or just a waste of precious money and time? Well, I think you will be in the best position to answer that but if you were to ask for my opinion, I think it was a good idea to further your education to the University level. If you can’t boast of anything, at least you got exposure, experienced different cultures, some change of environment, not to talk of the internships during those long vacations and one year of national service after school. It was a good idea folks, just work hard, pray without season, identify what you are good at which could make you money and I assure you God will make a way. I identified teaching as something I could do well and earn good amount of money. I worked hard and prayed to God. God has done it for me and He can do it for you too. Not forgetting my brothers and sisters from the Polythenics now known as Technical Universities who hold Higher National Diplomas (HNDs), Diplomas and so on who also don’t have jobs after completing national service and have stayed home for God knows how long all because of WORKING EXPERIENCE going through similar WAHALA if not worse than what I went through. I don’t want to sound political but I think our politicians are not to be blamed for this perception by our employers. As I said earlier, I don’t know what you are going through as you read today’s message. The sorrow, the hardship, the pain, the disappointment, the frustration but though the mountains crumble under the oceans rage and war against your soul the devil may wage. Though the tempest has turned your smile outside down and your life like a river of sorrow in which you drown, yet will you stand unshaken for as long as it last. Faithful is He that promised and it shall come to pass. If God be for us, then who can stand against. The God who spoke all the earth into form. He said let there be light, let it be bright. Let there be day, let there be night. Out of the sound of His voice, birds, fish and trees did come. The mountains, they smelt like wax, the hills skip like young calves at the sound of the voice of the God that we serve. Our help in ages past, our hope for years to come. Begin to make this bold confession to God ‘BESIDES THEE OH LORD, WE HAVE NO OTHER GOD. KETSHEPILE WENA FELA. GARENG GA MATLHAMOLA. GARENG GA DITSIETSI. KETSHEPILE WENA FELA. UNGUJEHOVA WENA. ISIPHEPHELO SAM’ NGUWE. UNGUMELUSI WAM’ WENA. UKUTHULA KWAM’ NGUWE. UNGUMTHOKOZISI WENA. UKUPHILA KWAM’ NGUWE. UNGENZEL’ OKUHLE WENA. EL SHADDAI ADDONAI NGUWE. WHEN I THINK OF YOUR GOODNESS AND FAITHFULNESS EACH DAY, I’M CONVINCED IT’S NOT BECAUSE I AM WORTHY TO RECEIVE THE KIND OF LOVE THAT YOU GIVE BUT I’M GRATEFUL FOR YOUR MERCY AND GRACE. IMELA!! IMELA!!! OKAKA, ONYEKERUWA, EZE M OH. ONYEDIKAGI? EKENE DIRI GI, ONYENE MEMA, ONYE NAGWORIA, EBUBE, OMEMA, CHUKWUEBUKA, OGHENE DOH, IGWE, IMELA!!!!!!!’ Have faith in God and make this bold confession as many times as you can. No matter the situation, always say to yourself Hakuna Matata in Jesus name. Amen!!!

Now there is a very essential commodity you also need when you find yourself in this WAHALA and that is faith in God. What is Faith? I am a Christian and allow me to be a little bias and visit the Holy Bible. In the book of Hebrew chapter 11, faith is defined and well elaborated. I take this reading from the New King James Version and I quote “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. For by it the elders obtained a good testimony. By faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that the things which are seen were not made of things which are visible. By faith Abel offered to God a more excellent sacrifice than Cain, through which he obtained witness that he was righteous, God testifying of his gifts; and through it he being dead still speaks. By faith Enoch was taken away so that he did not see death, "and was not found, because God had taken him"; for before he was taken he had this testimony, that he pleased God. But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. By faith Noah, being divinely warned of things not yet seen, moved with godly fear, prepared an ark for the saving of his household, by which he condemned the world and became heir of the righteousness which is according to faith. By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to the place which he would receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going. By faith he dwelt in the land of promise as in a foreign country, dwelling in tents with Isaac and Jacob, the heirs with him of the same promise; for he waited for the city which has foundations, whose builder and maker is God. By faith Sarah herself also received strength to conceive seed, and she bore a child when she was past the age, because she judged Him faithful who had promised. Therefore from one man, and him as good as dead, were born as many as the stars of the sky in multitude innumerable as the sand which is by the seashore. These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off were assured of them, embraced them and confessed that they were strangers and pilgrims on the earth. For those who say such things declare plainly that they seek a homeland. And truly if they had called to mind that country from which they had come out, they would have had opportunity to return. But now they desire a better, that is, a heavenly country. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for He has prepared a city for them. By faith Abraham, when he was tested, offered up Isaac, and he who had received the promises offered up his only begotten son, of whom it was said, "In Isaac your seed shall be called," concluding that God was able to raise him up, even from the dead, from which he also received him in a figurative sense. By faith Isaac blessed Jacob and Esau concerning things to come. By faith Jacob, when he was dying, blessed each of the sons of Joseph, and worshiped, leaning on the top of his staff. By faith Joseph, when he was dying, made mention of the departure of the children of Israel, and gave instructions concerning his bones. By faith Moses, when he was born, was hidden three months by his parents, because they saw he was a beautiful child; and they were not afraid of the king's command. By faith Moses, when he became of age, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh's daughter, choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin, esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt; for he looked to the reward. By faith he forsook Egypt, not fearing the wrath of the king; for he endured as seeing Him who is invisible. By faith he kept the Passover and the sprinkling of blood, lest he who destroyed the firstborn should touch them. By faith they passed through the Red Sea as by dry land, whereas the Egyptians, attempting to do so, were drowned. By faith the walls of Jericho fell down after they were encircled for seven days. By faith the harlot Rahab did not perish with those who did not believe, when she had received the spies with peace. And what more shall I say? For the time would fail me to tell of Gideon and Barak and Samson and Jephthah, also of David and Samuel and the prophets: who through faith subdued kingdoms, worked righteousness, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, quenched the violence of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, out of weakness were made strong, became valiant in battle, turned to flight the armies of the aliens. Women received their dead raised to life again. And others were tortured, not accepting deliverance, that they might obtain a better resurrection. Still others had trial of mockings and scourgings, yes, and of chains and imprisonment. They were stoned, they were sawn in two, were tempted, were slain with the sword. They wandered about in sheepskins and goatskins, being destitute, afflicted, tormented of whom the world was not worthy. They wandered in deserts and mountains, in dens and caves of the earth. And all these, having obtained a good testimony through faith, did not receive the promise, God having provided something better for us, that they should not be made perfect apart from us.”(NKJV) I believe you now know what faith is and you are in a good position to practice your faith in God if you haven’t started already. If you are also not clear with any line in the Scripture above or any line in the whole message, just chat with me on Facebook for further clarification. Have faith in God that the WAHALA will end very soon and you will secure that dream job you always wanted.

For the first time in my messages over the years, there will be moral lessons in addition to this message. What are the moral lessons from today’s message? First and foremost, I learnt that your First Degree or Higher National Diploma (HND) or Diploma is just not enough if you really want to secure your dream job. It is best for you to do some certification or professional courses in addition to your first degree or diploma certificate. Let me site some few examples. For instance, you read a non-education course like Physics and Computer Science, Geography and Political Science, Psychology, Sociology, Social Work, Economics, Mathematics, Business Administration in Accounting for First Degree or Higher National Diploma (HND) in a non-education institutions like University of Ghana, Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology and the various Polythenics in Ghana now called Technical Universities and you will want to teach after school, I recommend that you pursue Post Graduate in Education at any of the University of Education campuses across the country and get that certificate in addition to your First Degree before you start applying for teaching jobs. After your First Degree in a non-education course (Physics and Computer Science, Geography and Political Science, Psychology, Sociology, Social Work, Economics, Mathematics, Business Administration in Accounting etc.), you are recognized as an untrained teacher and when you apply for teaching jobs with that, there are two things involved, either you secure the job and get small salary or you don’t get the job at all. Thus, why I recommended that you pursue Post Graduate in Education and get that certificate in addition to your First Degree. This will not only make you a trained teacher but will also guarantee you a big salary when you apply for the teaching jobs. For those of you looking forward to secure jobs other than teaching like accountant, secretary, database administrator, network administrator and so on, you still need to do some certification or professional courses to be able to secure you dream jobs. For instance, to be employed as an accountant in ‘big’ company, you need to do a professional course like ACCA or ICA in addition to your first degree in Business Administration in Accounting. This will make you a charted accountant and guarantee you a gargantuan salary from that ‘big’ company. To be a Network Administrator in a reputable company, you need to do a professional course in Network Administration in addition to your First Degree in Computer Science or Information Technology (I.T.). This will make you a Cisco Certified Network Administrator and guarantee you a gargantuan salary from that ‘big’ company. So having the work experience is just not enough as these certifications also play a very essential role.

Secondly, I learnt that it is not good to put all your eggs in one basket. Back in level 200 at University of Ghana, I made up my mind to teach after school. In view of this, I did all my internships during the long vacations at different schools hoping to acquire more experience and skills in teaching so that I can apply them when I go and teach after I complete the university. This was a bad decision as I was putting all my eggs in one basket and that was teaching. With my computer science background, I could have done some of my internships in some I.T. companies to acquire some working experience and more skills in I.T. Moreover, I could have also acquired more I.T. skills on my own but I refused to because teaching was all I wanted to do. I could have acquired more I.T. skills by learning a lot things on my own because we weren’t taught everything at my computer science lectures way back at University of Ghana which I still refused to. I got another opportunity to acquire more I.T. skills and to some extent some certifications in I.T. when I got the privilege to be a teaching assistant at the Computer Science Department. Again, I didn’t take this opportunity and spent all my free times teaching Elective Mathematics and Elective Physics at a remedial school called Springboard College formerly known as Genius College. I remember Oracle Company came around those days to organize a workshop to train lecturers and teaching assistant in Database Administration and certificates were awarded after. I also remember I.B.M. Company also came around to organize a similar workshop on both Database Administration and the concept of Big Data on separate occasions after which certificates were awarded again. All these workshops were organized for the Computer Science Department and guess what, it was free of charge. All I needed to do was to take my laptop and go there to participate but I still refused to instead I was busy doing some home tuition for some students in Core Mathematics, Integrated Science, Elective Mathematics and International Baccalaureate Computer Science. I didn’t utilize all these opportunities and let them slip by. I could have setup my own I.T. Company if I had done this and forget about searching for jobs. After going through this WAHALA, I must admit I have my regrets and will encourage all Computer Science undergraduates and graduates across the country to learn a lot of things on their own to acquire more I.T. skills, do a lot internships at I.T. Companies to acquire more working experience in I.T. and last but not the least take advantage of every opportunity that comes their way.

Thirdly, I also learnt that in Ghana now, being an Entrepreneur is the best option. Who is an Entrepreneur? According to Encarta Learners Dictionary, an Entrepreneur is somebody who initiates or finances new commercial enterprise. In simple terms, an Entrepreneur is somebody who starts his or her own business. First of all, you have to identify a skill that you have or something you good at. I identified teaching as a skill I had or something I’m good at. Secondly, the source of funding or source of capital to start the business. If you don’t have it, you make plans of how to acquire it. I didn’t need much to start up the home tuition company so I was able to start with the little I had. Thirdly, you go and register the company if you have enough funds but if you don’t have enough funds, you can start the business and later register it. I didn’t have enough funds so I decided to start so that later I go and register it. Fourthly, set a target for yourself. For instance, at the end of three months, I would have made a profit of 1000cedis. Finally, you pray and commit the business into God’s hands so that everything about the business will work out. You are good to go from here. I did all these things and started the home tuition company but as I said earlier, things didn’t work out for a lot reasons. The most outstanding reason why it failed was my price tag which I wasn’t also ready to reduce. As I said earlier, I had worked with a home tuition company before and felt that the charges for my services were moderate enough and didn’t need any adjustment or modification. So I was home till I got the contract I told you earlier on about. Although I wasn’t successful at the first attempt, I have not given up and will give it a try again. Even though I failed at my second attempt as an Entrepreneur, I still think it is the best option which will help you make it in our country now. Why am I saying my second attempt as an entrepreneur? You will find out at the end of the message. These were the moral lessons I learnt from today’s message. What moral lesson did you learn from today’s message? Let me hear from you through my social media handles (Facebook, twitter, Skype etc.) or better still, you can send me an e-mail or use the comment box below. I can’t wait to hear from you.

To draw down the curtains for today’s message, I would like to answer a few questions I posed earlier on. The first question was how I dealt with all the disappointments, frustrations, worries and sadness (WAHALA). Well, I normally play my favorite gospel song on my Laptop and sing alongside. As I sing, I pray alongside intermittently about the WAHALA. After that, I pour out the remnant of the WAHALA by writing it all out of my spirit onto my Laptop. The final product of what I write out of my spirit is the motivational message I publish here. The second question was why I was still doing the part time job knowing very well I got nothing to save at the end of the day. I wanted to first and foremost, gain more skills and experience, secondly, exercise my brain and last but not the least kill the boredomness. I was getting bored staying home every day and wanted to get myself occupied if not for the whole week at least some of the days of the week. The third and final question was why I said my second attempt as an entrepreneur. Well, my first attempt as an entrepreneur was way back in upper primary when my grandmother’s kerosene business collapsed and I took over. I remember borrowing money from her to buy one gallon of kerosene to start the business again on my own. I succeeded in selling the one gallon and even sold two more gallons after. I paid her back and even had a profit of one more gallon. Business was booming those days to the point that even when there was shortage of kerosene at filling stations, I will be having it in excess and selling it a little above the normal price. I normally sell it in coke and beer bottles and roam in town moving from house to house shouting kerosene ooo kerosene hoping to draw attention for people to buy. I made a lot of money to the point of giving my mother some tips when I’m in a good mood. I graduated from upper primary and moved to Junior High School. To cut the long story short, the business collapsed when some girls in my class started giving me attention. I started feeling shy to go and sell the kerosene for the fear that they might see me and I might lose the little swag I’ve acquired. I also spent the rest of my profit on unnecessary things. I was just left with two gallons of kerosene which I later gathered courage to sell it and use the money to go for an excursion organized for Junior High School pupils. This was my first attempt as an entrepreneur and I must admit it was a fun filled adventure that I will always reminisce. This was all the questions I posed earlier on. Talk of questions, if you have any questions concerning today’s message, don’t hesitate to ask me through my social media handles (Facebook, Twitter and Skype) or through my e-mail or the comment box below. The next message I’m planning to publish is entitled THE SPIRIT OF BORROWING, SAVING AND GIVING so watch out. I just hope it doesn’t take me a whole year to write it. All the same, God’s time is the best. No matter how long a journey is, it always ends at a doorstep. Thank you for your time and God richly bless you!!!!!!!!!

WHAT IS LOVE?

Hello guys!!!! It’s been a while. Hope you all doing good. Just had to take a break to finish some stuffs. Just finished and couldn’t wait to publish something for you. Some few months after the message entitled “I KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR WILL POWER, PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS BUT NEVERTHELESS THE WILL OF GOD SHALL STAND” that today’s message dropped but had to finish some stuffs before. Today’s message is about love. So I decided to coin my own definitions for love from mathematics, science and English language. In English Language, I can say love is a verb and the same time a noun. In Mathematics, I can also say Love is infinite. In Science, I can say Love is a chemistry. You will find out the meaning of these three definitions for love by the end of the message. Let me add something from a dictionary. According to the Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, Third Edition, Love means to like another adult very much and be romantically and sexually attracted to them or to have strong feelings of liking a friend or person in your family. DESPITE ALL THESE DEFINITIONS I DON’T THINK THAT IS WHAT LOVE IS. SO THEN WHAT IS LOVE?????Follow me and by the end of my message you will know what love is. There are so many schools of thought about this four letter word. Some are scriptural and others are peoples’ opinion. I will restrict myself to these two schools of thought to proof to you what I think love is. Before I get you a cup of water to drink, let me first get you a chair to sit on first by taking you through the kinds of love. These kinds of love are from the Ancient Greeks. The Greeks refer to the kinds of love as different words for love. In other books there are four kinds of love but I will talk about six kinds of love. I took this information on the kinds of love from an article posted by Roman Krznaric on 27th. December, 2013, this originally appeared in Sojourners. The six kinds of love are as follows; The first kind of love is called Eros, or sexual passion. The first kind of love eros, named after the Greek god of fertility, and it represented the idea of sexual passion and desire. But the Greeks didn't always think of it as something positive, as we tend to do today. In fact, eros was viewed as a dangerous, fiery, and irrational form of love that could take hold of you and possess you—an attitude shared by many later spiritual thinkers, such as the Christian writer C.S. Lewis. Eros involved a loss of control that frightened the Greeks. This is odd, because losing control is precisely what many people now seek in a relationship. Don't we all hope to fall "madly" in love? The second kind of love is Philia, or deep friendship. The second variety of love philia or friendship, which the Greeks valued far more than the base sexuality of eros. Philia concerned the deep comradely friendship that developed between brothers in arms who had fought side by side on the battlefield. It was about showing loyalty to your friends, sacrificing for them, as well as sharing your emotions with them. (Another kind of philia, sometimes called storge, embodied the love between parents and their children.) We can all ask ourselves how much of this comradely philia we have in our lives. It's an important question in an age when we attempt to amass "friends" on Facebook or "followers" on Twitter—achievements that would have hardly impressed the Greeks. The third kind of love is Ludus, or playful love. This was the Greeks' idea of playful love, which referred to the affection between children or young lovers. We've all had a taste of it in the flirting and teasing in the early stages of a relationship. But we also live out our ludus when we sit around in a bar bantering and laughing with friends, or when we go out dancing. Dancing with strangers may be the ultimate ludic activity, almost a playful substitute for sex itself. Social norms may frown on this kind of adult frivolity, but a little more ludus might be just what we need to spice up our love lives. The fourth kind of love is Agape, or love for everyone. The fourth love, and perhaps the most radical, was agape or selfless love. This was a love that you extended to all people, whether family members or distant strangers. Agape was later translated into Latin as caritas, which is the origin of our word "charity." C.S. Lewis referred to it as "gift love," the highest form of Christian love. But it also appears in other religious traditions, such as the idea of mettā or "universal loving kindness" in Theravāda Buddhism. There is growing evidence that agape is in a dangerous decline in many countries. Empathy levels in the U.S. have declined sharply over the past 40 years, with the steepest fall occurring in the past decade. We urgently need to revive our capacity to care about strangers. The fifth kind of love is Pragma, or longstanding love. Another Greek love was the mature love known as pragma. This was the deep understanding that developed between long-married couples. Pragma was about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing patience and tolerance. The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said that we expend too much energy on "falling in love" and need to learn more how to "stand in love." Pragma is precisely about standing in love—making an effort to give love rather than just receive it. With about a third of first marriages in the U.S. ending through divorce or separation in the first 10 years, the Greeks would surely think we should bring a serious dose of pragma into our relationships. The sixth kind of love is Philautia, or love of the self . The Greek's sixth variety of love was philautia or self-love. And the clever Greeks realized there were two types. One was an unhealthy variety associated with narcissism, where you became self-obsessed and focused on personal fame and fortune. A healthier version enhanced your wider capacity to love. The idea was that if you like yourself and feel secure in yourself, you will have plenty of love to give others (as is reflected in the Buddhist-inspired concept of "self-compassion"). Or, as Aristotle put it, "All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feelings for himself." So what is love??????? Now that I’m done talking about the kinds of love let’s move on and look at the two different schools of thought. These two schools of thought cut across the different kinds of love hence why I took you through it earlier on. The first one I will talk about is the scriptural one. I will be a bit bias and visit the Holy Bible since I’m a Christian. Apologies to my readers from the other religions. I take the scriptural reading from 1Corithians 13:1-13 (NKJV) and it reads “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” So what is love???????? The second school of thought is by a guy I listened to from an audio I received from a friend who did not introduce himself hence I can’t really acknowledge him but big ups to him wherever he is and it reads; “It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. May be God want us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Love is when you take away the feeling; the passion and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go. When the door of happiness closes, another door opens but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with; never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had. It is true that we don’t know what we’ve got till we lose it. But it is also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives. Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they love you back. Don’t expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart. But if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours. There are things you would love to hear that you will never hear from the person whom you would like to hear them from. But don’t be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from their heart. Never say goodbye if you still want to try. Never give up if you still think you can go on. Never say you don’t love a person anymore if you can’t let go. Love comes to those who still hope although they have been disappointed, to those who still believe although they have been betrayed, to those who still need to love although they have been hurt before and to those who have the courage and faith to build trust again. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone. But it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for Wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Hope you find someone that makes you smile” So what is love?????? Now what’s my take on all this? As a motivator and counselor I will say; For friendship, you might have a couple of friends. Some good and some bad. Some may claim they love you but will turn you down when you need their help the most. Again some may claim they love you but speak ill of you in your absence to your other friends backbiting you left right and center with nowhere to turn to. Again you may have a friend who can’t forgive you for the little offence yet claims he or she loves you. Funny enough you have to love them back despite all this. So what is love???? For family, you might have uncles, aunties, cousins, nephews , brothers, sisters and so on who will claim they love you but will speak ill of you in your absence to other family members gossiping left right and center with news of you everywhere. Some family members looking out for their own selfish interest as if they are looking out for you and yet still claim they love you. Surprisely you have to love them back despite all these. So what is love????? For relationship, you might be in a relationship with someone who is just interested in the favor he or she will get from you but still claims he or she loves you. Again you will be in a relationship with someone who claims he or she loves you but will tell you tomorrow that he or she will break up with you without thinking about it. Again you will be in a relationship with someone who claims he or she loves you but will change his or her what’s up display picture to another person’s own and change the status to my loving and caring boyfriend or girlfriend tomorrow. You still have to love them back despite all these. So what is love????? Not leaving out our work places, church, and school. For our work places you might have colleagues who speak ill of you in your absence. Sabotaging you to get a promotion and backbiting you to paint a good picture of themselves and so on. Despite all these they claim they love you. Again you have to love them back even though it hurts. For our churches there are a lot going on there. You are a church member who is to be promoted to the position of a Deacon or Deaconess but your church Elder tells the board you are not ready since there is a misunderstanding or grudge between you and the church Elder who claims he loves you. You are in the church choir and you had a misunderstanding with the choir master. Due to this you have left the choir whiles that special voice of yours is needed by the church but you still claim you love the church. Let love ourselves and everything will be fine. In school you might be having a text book which a friend is not having because he or she can’t afford to buy. He or she comes to you and you turn him or her down. Your friend is broke and you have some cash to spare but you refuse to give when your friend asks you yet you claim you love him or her. So what is love????? As a motivator and counselor, I know it tough to love them but you have to. I am going through similar issues. Some few minutes after I broke up with my girlfriend after 10months of relationship I wrote this message. I am not a saint. I am equally as guilty as you are. I fall short of all that I have written above. Together let’s work to love one another. So wherever you are just know that I understand you and we are in this together. So let’s still love them back no matter how much they hurt us or how bad it is. Let me now explain the definitions I gave earlier that are those that I coined. Love is a noun because it can be the name of something. Again love is an action word which makes it a verb. Love is infinite because it has so many meanings. Love is a chemistry because it brings some kind of belongingness and the feeling of some kind of emptiness in the absence of one another. As a motivator and counselor, after second thought I think I will side with the mathematical definition I coined earlier on and give it the Queen’s language version which is LOVE IS AMBIGUOUS!!!!!

I KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR WILL POWER, PLANS, GOALS, ASPIRATIONS OR DREAMS BUT NEVERTHELESS THE WILL OF GOD SHALL STAND!!!!!!

Hello guys, how are you all doing? Hope you all are doing good. It’s been a long time. I remember the last time I posted a message here was on 2nd. September, 2013. This didn’t mean I was not having any message to post but the time to sit down to write a message wasn’t there. The inspiration for this new message came a long time ago (somewhere last year after the message entitled “is it love, lust, obsession or I just see you as a friend”) but the time to sit down and write was the issue. On 25th. July, 2014 around 14hours GMT I happen to find myself sitting by a coconut seller at a junction near Papaye in Osu, Accra-Ghana, West Africa. I’m sure you might be thinking I was buying a coconut. Then I’m sorry your guess was wrong. What the hell at all was I doing there? I believe will be your next question. You will find out at the end of the message. God has given us a will power which allows us to make our own decisions, judgement, choices, do what we feel like doing without necessarily seeking his consent. So then what is wrong with someone telling me that he or she will like to become a coconut seller in future or he or she will like to become a medical doctor in future or he or she will like to become a pilot in future or he or she will like to become a nurse in future and so on? You will find out at the end of the message. Now with this foundation in place let me start constructing the five storey building. Don’t worry I will finish very soon. It’s express!!!!!!! (the same meaning as the usage of express at the passport office) Many times we do plan our lives hoping for it to follow a line. But sometimes they don’t follow that line and you begin to wonder why? Asking yourself questions, day in and day out. Sometimes we do end up questioning God. Asking God why he allowed it to go that way knowing well that you prayed about it that is asking God to let your plans come to pass. Let’s say I just meet a friend and during a conservation I ask him or her that where do you want to see yourself in the next ten years? Then he or she begins to give me a long list of expectations. For example I will be the President of Ghana in the next ten years with assets like lands, cars, buildings, factories and a whole lot. I will be married to the most beautiful lady on the planet with four children; two handsome boys and two beautiful girls. It is a good plan, goal, dream or aspiration and the majority will go for it. What about the minority? Looking at the current state of the nation some will not like to fill the shoe of the president even if it is in the next twenty years. With a portion of a loan agreement going into sanitary pads for senior high schools, the dollar, pound, euro currencies soaring high in terms of their cedi equivalent, inflation figures flying high like an eagle, strikes upon strikes, demonstrations upon demonstrations, the economic hardships are so obvious. I don’t want to sound political but I have to give you this fact to proceed with my message. Let me sight another example. Let’s say you ask me where I want to see myself in the next ten years, I will tell you that I will be in the cockpit of a Lufthansa airliner flying to Berlin with three hundred and sixty-five passengers and six crews including myself on board (pilot). I will also be married to the most beautiful lady on the planet with six adorable children following me like the Black Stars team. That is such a wild one but it is good and the majority will go for it. Again what about the minority? There are so many reasons why the minority wouldn’t go for it and one of them is that they might die too quick. With the disappearance of the Malaysian airliner, the crashing of another Malaysian airliner, the crashing of the Taiwan airliner and the disappearance and crashing of an Algerian airliner, some will not like to venture into such a profession. But let me tell you something and that is every job is risky. Tell me the job and I will tell you how risky it is. But anyway that is not the bone of contention here. So let me get back to the topic before I get distracted. To cut the long story short, some will like to become president, pilot, nurse, doctor, engineers and so on in the next ten years and everyone will like to be somebody big in the next years. But have you asked yourself what God think about all that or you don’t even care about his thought. Then let me tell you that whether you care or not his will shall stand at the end of the day. It’s look like I’m going too far away so let me bring it close. Let’s say I ask you what is your plan for tomorrow? I expect a lot of answers like you will go to work, school, church and so on after which you will come back home and relax or go and play football, FIFA soccer game, table tennis, basket ball and so on or you will visit some friends but God can cause something different to happen that day and you will be like my plans has been messed up. God controls everything. Although sometimes your plans come through but that doesn’t mean that God has no hand in it or you are in control. God just allowed it to happen. I AM NOT SAYING THAT YOU DON’T HAVE FAITH IN GOD. No, I know with God nothing is impossible and with faith in God you will get what you want but on a condition that what you want is in the will of God. And it is not that I am not a Christian or I don’t have faith. No, I am a Christian and have faith in God. Let me teach you something small about the will of God. The will of God is in two forms. We have the perfect will of God and the submissive will of God. In simple terms, the submissive will of God occurs when you want something and you tell God and he is like that something is not good for you and you keep on persisting and God gives it to you. In that case it wasn’t his will but he gave it to you. And the consequences that come with it are so unbearable that you wish that you have not asked. But when you come back to him to give you what he wanted for you, he is always ready to give it to you which makes him forever loving and merciful and you will really enjoy yourself well after. The perfect will of God comes in when you accept what he want for you and life is really good after. It doesn’t mean that bad times will not come, they will come but he will take you out of them all. For further explanation and understanding, get yourself a Holy Bible and read the book of Numbers chapter twenty-two downwards and you will get the whole scenario. Another instance is when Jesus was going to be crucified, he prayed and said Father I wish this cup by pass me but nevertheless let your will be done. This was Jesus speaking here. I don’t want you to feel as if you are in church and I am giving you a sermon. I’m just trying to motivate you and you will see that at the end of the message. IT IS NOT WRONG TO HAVE SUCH A PLAN, DREAM, GOAL OR ASPIRATION. The question is, IS IT THE WILL OF GOD? OR IS IT PART OF GOD’S PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE HERE ON EARTH? DOES THIS ALSO MEAN THAT WE SHOULDN’T PLAN OR HAVE DREAMS, GOALS OR ASPIRATIONS? Since at the end of the day God might end up doing something different according to his plans for your life. I’m using the word might because sometimes our plans do coincide with God’s plan for us. Someone once said that if you fail to plan then you plan to fail. Also the Holy Bible says that horses are prepared for battle but victory comes from the Lord. The word prepared there means that there should be some planning and hence the preparation. This means that in life you should have your PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS. DOES THIS ALSO MEAN THAT WE SHOULDN’T PRAY ABOUT OUR PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS? Since God’s will shall stand at the end of the day no matter the prayer. And you say to yourself that “WHAT CAN COME CAN COME” as Ayertey Powers said and was beaten miserably by Bukom Banku. In this case the devil will come in and destroy your plans, goals, dreams or aspirations for you. So you should still pray about your plans, goals, dreams or aspirations so that the good Lord who has began the good work in you can take it to a successful end still looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith!!!!!!!!!! Let me say something small about future career or profession or job. For example, somebody’s future career or profession or job is to become a pilot or medical doctor or nurse or an engineer. Then it should be something that you are passionate about, something you don’t struggle doing, something you feel comfortable with, something you like and above all you love doing. I'm not saying give up on your PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS but just make sure it is in the will of God.That's all!!! About the coconut seller, I was just sitting there watching how he was selling the coconut intermittently, saying to myself that if that was my job, first of all I will be struggling, secondly by the end of the first week I would have lost all my left fingers, thirdly by the end of the third week I would have lost my left hand, fourthly by the end of the month I would have lost my left arm because I can’t cut the coconut the way he is doing it. I was also equally writing today’s message as I sat there and that is how I got the time to write today’s message entitled “I KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR WILL POWER, PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS BUT NEVERTHELESS THE WILL OF GOD SHALL STAND”. As a motivator and counsellor, what I think is best is for us all is to add God’s will, plan or purpose for our lives to our will power, plans, goals, dreams or aspirations. Whatever they are, always say God willing and remember the will of God shall always stand!!!!Should your will power, plans, goals, dreams or aspirations coincide with God’s will or plan or purpose for your life, accept it and move on. Should your will power, plans, goals, dreams or aspirations not coincide with God’s will, plan or purpose for your life, accept it and move on. After asking God your plans, goals, dreams or aspirations, requests, needs, wants and so on in a form of prayer let this be your final words FATHER NEVERTHELESS LET YOUR WILL BE DONE CONCERNING MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME.AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!

IS IT LOVE, LUST, OBSESSION OR I JUST SEE YOU AS A FRIEND AND WHETHER A RELATIONSHIP CAN BE BASED ON ANY OF THESE?

This is the second part of the message on RELATIONSHIP. To really enjoy this message, I will suggest you first read the message on relationship. You will remember very well that I stated in the beginning of the message on relationship that I have never been in relationship before and that the knowledge I had on relationship was from experiences of friends who were in a relationship. Well, it’s no more the case now. I got into a relationship some few weeks ago and it lasted for just two days. Yes, I mean just two days. You might be wondering what happened? Right!!!!! And that brings us to today’s message “IS IT LOVE, LUST, OBSESSION OR I JUST SEE YOU AS A FRIEND AND WHETHER A RELATIONSHIP CAN BE BASED ON ANY OF THESE?”. Let me try to define some key words in today’s message. According to the Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, Third Edition, LOVE means to like another adult very much and be romantically and sexually attracted to them or to have strong feelings of liking a friend or person in your family. From the same source, LUST is a very strong sexual desire, OBSESSION means someone that you think about all the time and a FRIEND is a person who you know well and who you like a lot, but who is usually not a member of your family. Now with these definitions I believe we can set the ball rolling. Which of these should be the basis for a relationship? Can one propose for a relationship if he or she sees someone as just a FRIEND? For instance, you’ve been friends for two years and have gotten to know each other very well. Can you go ahead and propose for relationship even though you are just friends? May be you love that someone as just a friend or like that someone as just a friend. Can you still propose? Well, as a motivator and counselor, this is what I suggest you do. You can go ahead and propose for a relationship. Friendship forms the basis of a relationship and not LOVE. I believe that love grows with time, comes naturally and diminishes with time but God’s love is everlasting. With time you will be in love with that someone and you will start seeing him or her as more than a friend. You just need to be patient. Can one propose for a relationship if he or she is OBSESSED about someone? Well, as a motivator and counselor, I will say no because you can cause more harm than good to yourself and to that someone. This obsession can make you more jealous than you can think of and in your attempt of dealing with it you can cause harm to yourself or to that someone. Some even go to the extent of killing because of obsession. Rather what I will encourage you to do is to pray to God to remove that feeling from you. I believe in prayer a lot and it works. All you need to do is to believe and pray. Can one propose for a relationship if he or she LUST after someone? Well, as a motivator and counselor, I will again say no because your interest in that someone will die out immediately you lose what that someone have that you are lusting after. For instance, let’s say you lust after someone who is beautiful or handsome. When that person loses his or her handsomeness or beauty, you will leave immediately because what you are lusting after is no more there. Let me create another scenario. You meet a lady who is improperly dressed with her breast and buttocks well exposed. Naturally as a man you get sexually aroused but if you lose control and lust after her. Immediately you succeed in having sex with her that ends it and you wouldn’t want to have anything to do with her again. That is lust at work. Finally, can one propose for a relationship if he or she LOVES someone? Well, as a motivator and counselor, I will say a big yes. No questions about this? Right!!!! Ok. Well, I’m interested in the other side of the coin and that is what if that someone doesn’t LOVE YOU OR JUST LUST AFTER YOU OR OBSESSED ABOUT YOU OR JUST SAW YOU AS A FRIEND, WILL YOU STILL PROPOSE FOR RELATIONSHIP? After all that we’ve learnt, you will all agree with me that YOU SHOULD GO AHEAD AND PROPOSE RELATIONSHIP TO THAT SOMEONE THAT JUST SAW YOU AS A FRIEND AND FORGET ABOUT THE OTHERS. LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL AND NOT RECIPROCAL. You can be in love with someone who does not love you but rather just see you as a friend. Someone can also be in love with you and you will not be in love with that someone but rather you just see that someone as just a friend. So you can love someone without that person necessarily loving you. In a nut shell, my relationship lasted for just two days because of this same issue. I’m back to being single again and I’ve learnt my lesson. So as a motivator and counselor I will encourage that you get into relationship with the one that loves you and you just see as a friend and with time you will be in love again!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SATISFACTION

I’m back after a long break. I had to get rid of some exams and a project work. But I’m through with it all so expect more messages. Back in Junior High School, I had a friend who we knew as the ladies’ man. He was always fooling around with ladies. He became popular with so many nicknames. He was also very intelligent and got the attention of almost everyone including the teachers. He told me he had committed almost every sin before. I doubted it so I made him explain himself. He said, first of all, he was sexually immoral. That is he watches pornography, press the breast and buttocks of ladies and run away. Back in the days, video cassettes players were used to watch videos. Also we had video rental shops around. He told me that he had finished watching all the pornographic films at a particular video rental shop and that whenever he goes to rent a pornographic video cassette from that shop, he realises that he has watched it before. He told me he started fornicating at the age of ten and at the age of fourteen he was caught having sex with a lady. Due to that he changed and turned into a homosexual for two years. I just couldn’t believe all that I was hearing but he told me he was telling me the truth. He also told me he had drunk alcohol before. He told me he followed a lady to a drinking spot and tasted alcohol for first time only to be carried to his room. He never took it again because he didn’t like the experience. For smoking, he tasted it for first time when another friend lighted a piece of a cain and he sucked the smoke into his mouth and started coughing. Again he never smoked again because he didn’t like the experience. For stealing, he stole for first time in nursery. He stole a friend’s toy and was caught and punished. Again he didn’t like the experience so he never stole again. And the sins go on and on and on. But through all this, he told me that, HE WAS NEVER SATISFIED. He told me that most often he felt regret and guilty after committing some of the sins. He wished he could stop but couldn’t till one day. He told me that he fornicated one day and felt a very strong feeling of regret. This made him changed from all his bad ways he said. He stopped fooling around with ladies, stealing, fornicating etc. This happened at the age of sixteen. He gave his life to Christ at the first altar call at church in Senior High School by confessing Lord Jesus and accepting him into his life as stated in the Holy Bible at Romans 10:9-10 and I quote “that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God had raised Him from the dead you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. (NKJV)”. Since then his life has never been the same. He is now nine years old in Christ. So if you are in a similar situation, as a motivator and counsellor, I will encourage you not to give up and to keep on praying and God will surely visit you one day and take you out of that. Also get yourself occupied with activities at church as that will also take your mind off certain things. After my friend gave his life to Christ, things started to turn around. It was then that he realised where the satisfaction was. HE TOLD ME THAT HE IS NOW SATISFIED. There is total satisfaction in Christ Jesus. So if you want to enjoy this satisfaction then I will encourage you to give your life to Christ. It’s simple. Just say this prayer after me Lord Jesus I thank you for coming to me today. Lord Jesus, forgive me for all my sins and come into my life. Lord Jesus, I accept you as my Lord and personal saviour. Come into my heart and take control over my life. I surrender my will to you. Come and direct my path. I thank you Lord Jesus for coming into my life in Jesus name. Amen!!! Congratulations and welcome to the world of satisfaction in Christ Jesus. Now find for yourself a Bible believing church and attend. Also don’t forget to pray without season. Finally, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God and the sweet fellowship of the Holy Spirit, be with you now and forever more. Amen!!!!!!!

SOMEHOW

SOMEHOW
This is the second part of the message “To The Christians”. Before I add sugar to the cup of coffee, do you believe in the existence of heaven and hell? If yes, then let continue but if no, then find yourself a Holy Bible and read the whole book of Revelation, after visit www.scholum.wordpress.com for the story of a young girl who died for 23 hours and got the chance to tour heaven and hell with God and came back to life to tell her story. Going to heaven after death is a gain but going to hell after death is a great loss. Have you ever thought of losing it all or gaining it all?
Going to heaven or hell is SOMEHOW. Why do I say so? There lived a certain woman who was a chorister in a certain church. The woman was leading a righteous life and one day the pastor offended her but instead of telling the pastor, she kept it to herself and did not forgive the pastor. She unfortunately died after sometime. But all members of the church thought she was in heaven due to her righteous life. Sadly she was in hell and nobody knew till God revealed it to one of the church members through a dream. In the dream she was asked how she got there and she said because of unforgiveness. All because she did not forgive the pastor.
Now let talk about the two thieves crucified together with Jesus. Now according to the Holy Bible in the book of Luke 23:39-43 and I quote “Then one of the criminals who were hanged blasphemed Him, saying, “If You are the Christ, save Yourself and us.”But the other, answering, rebuked him, saying, “Do you not even fear God, seeing you are under the same condemnation? “And we indeed justly, for we receive the due reward of our deeds; but this Man has done nothing wrong.” Then he said to Jesus, “Lord, remember me when You come into Your kingdom.” And Jesus said to him, “Assuredly, I say to you, today you will be with Me in Paradise.””””(NKJV)Amen. Comparing the two situations, you realise that the choirister was a leading a righteous life and one sinful move which is unforgiveness quickly sent her to hell. Morever, you realise that the thief was leading a sinful life and one righteous move which was condemning the blasphemy, fearing God and accepting he had sinned sent him to heaven. We are not different from the thief and the choirister. We are human beings like them. So this could equally happen to us. Do you see why I said going to heaven or hell is SOMEHOW? I’m not telling you this to discourage you but to motivate you to keep on pressing towards the goal of serving God well in truth and in spirit, making disciples for Christ and going to heaven with them. When you fall, quickly rise up and get back into the race of pressing towards the goal. But if you remain there, you will lose the strength to continue and I pray that never be your portion. So step on the accelerator because we are almost there. We are in the end time.
In a nut shell I quote “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.” Amen (NKJV) 1 Corinthians 15:58.

COCKISH BEHAVIOUR

COCKISH BEHAVIOR
Wondering where this coinage “cockish” came from? Well, it’s my coinage and it simply means the behaviour of a cock. I had wanted to give this message to my readers some few months ago but thought it wise to deliver it a day after father’s day.
Cockish behaviour is the behaviour of some fathers. Pardon me for being harsh on these fathers who behave cockishly. These fathers get the strength, charisma, courage, and endurance to get a woman pregnant but refuse to accept the responsibility of taking care of the woman and the child. Such cockish behaviour should not be encouraged. The funny and sad aspect of this, is that, it doesn’t end on the first woman but they move on to the next woman immediately the first get pregnant and this continues till they have no more strength to continue on that expedition. This behaviour is not different from the cock which crosses any hen which comes along it path. But the cock’s own ends in a soup. When these fathers are weak and can’t continue their expedition they start searching for their children, not to take care of them but to be taken care of especially when their children are well to do, reaping what they’ve not sown. These well to do children got mothers with henish behaviours which is feeding, protecting, sheltering and providing the basic needs for their young ones. The hen protects it chicks from the hawk and other predators, feeds the chicks regularly and provide shelter by keeping chicks under it’s wings. Henish is also my coinage so don’t bother searching for it in the dictionary and it simply means the behaviour of a hen.
As a motivator and counsellor, I will urge fathers with henish behaviour to keep it up and those with cockish behaviour to desist from it as was also said by British Prime Minister yesterday. Moreover, victims of cockish behaviour fathers should kindly find a place in their hearts to forgive them and repented cockish behaviour fathers should also advice others in it to stop and search for their children as the father of Kelly Rowland did yesterday.
Finally, better late than never, as a motivator and counsellor, I wish all fathers and to be fathers, happy father’s day!!!!!!!!!!!!