WHAT IS LOVE?

Hello guys!!!! It’s been a while. Hope you all doing good. Just had to take a break to finish some stuffs. Just finished and couldn’t wait to publish something for you. Some few months after the message entitled “I KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR WILL POWER, PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS BUT NEVERTHELESS THE WILL OF GOD SHALL STAND” that today’s message dropped but had to finish some stuffs before. Today’s message is about love. So I decided to coin my own definitions for love from mathematics, science and English language. In English Language, I can say love is a verb and the same time a noun. In Mathematics, I can also say Love is infinite. In Science, I can say Love is a chemistry. You will find out the meaning of these three definitions for love by the end of the message. Let me add something from a dictionary. According to the Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, Third Edition, Love means to like another adult very much and be romantically and sexually attracted to them or to have strong feelings of liking a friend or person in your family. DESPITE ALL THESE DEFINITIONS I DON’T THINK THAT IS WHAT LOVE IS. SO THEN WHAT IS LOVE?????Follow me and by the end of my message you will know what love is. There are so many schools of thought about this four letter word. Some are scriptural and others are peoples’ opinion. I will restrict myself to these two schools of thought to proof to you what I think love is. Before I get you a cup of water to drink, let me first get you a chair to sit on first by taking you through the kinds of love. These kinds of love are from the Ancient Greeks. The Greeks refer to the kinds of love as different words for love. In other books there are four kinds of love but I will talk about six kinds of love. I took this information on the kinds of love from an article posted by Roman Krznaric on 27th. December, 2013, this originally appeared in Sojourners. The six kinds of love are as follows; The first kind of love is called Eros, or sexual passion. The first kind of love eros, named after the Greek god of fertility, and it represented the idea of sexual passion and desire. But the Greeks didn't always think of it as something positive, as we tend to do today. In fact, eros was viewed as a dangerous, fiery, and irrational form of love that could take hold of you and possess you—an attitude shared by many later spiritual thinkers, such as the Christian writer C.S. Lewis. Eros involved a loss of control that frightened the Greeks. This is odd, because losing control is precisely what many people now seek in a relationship. Don't we all hope to fall "madly" in love? The second kind of love is Philia, or deep friendship. The second variety of love philia or friendship, which the Greeks valued far more than the base sexuality of eros. Philia concerned the deep comradely friendship that developed between brothers in arms who had fought side by side on the battlefield. It was about showing loyalty to your friends, sacrificing for them, as well as sharing your emotions with them. (Another kind of philia, sometimes called storge, embodied the love between parents and their children.) We can all ask ourselves how much of this comradely philia we have in our lives. It's an important question in an age when we attempt to amass "friends" on Facebook or "followers" on Twitter—achievements that would have hardly impressed the Greeks. The third kind of love is Ludus, or playful love. This was the Greeks' idea of playful love, which referred to the affection between children or young lovers. We've all had a taste of it in the flirting and teasing in the early stages of a relationship. But we also live out our ludus when we sit around in a bar bantering and laughing with friends, or when we go out dancing. Dancing with strangers may be the ultimate ludic activity, almost a playful substitute for sex itself. Social norms may frown on this kind of adult frivolity, but a little more ludus might be just what we need to spice up our love lives. The fourth kind of love is Agape, or love for everyone. The fourth love, and perhaps the most radical, was agape or selfless love. This was a love that you extended to all people, whether family members or distant strangers. Agape was later translated into Latin as caritas, which is the origin of our word "charity." C.S. Lewis referred to it as "gift love," the highest form of Christian love. But it also appears in other religious traditions, such as the idea of mettā or "universal loving kindness" in Theravāda Buddhism. There is growing evidence that agape is in a dangerous decline in many countries. Empathy levels in the U.S. have declined sharply over the past 40 years, with the steepest fall occurring in the past decade. We urgently need to revive our capacity to care about strangers. The fifth kind of love is Pragma, or longstanding love. Another Greek love was the mature love known as pragma. This was the deep understanding that developed between long-married couples. Pragma was about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing patience and tolerance. The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said that we expend too much energy on "falling in love" and need to learn more how to "stand in love." Pragma is precisely about standing in love—making an effort to give love rather than just receive it. With about a third of first marriages in the U.S. ending through divorce or separation in the first 10 years, the Greeks would surely think we should bring a serious dose of pragma into our relationships. The sixth kind of love is Philautia, or love of the self . The Greek's sixth variety of love was philautia or self-love. And the clever Greeks realized there were two types. One was an unhealthy variety associated with narcissism, where you became self-obsessed and focused on personal fame and fortune. A healthier version enhanced your wider capacity to love. The idea was that if you like yourself and feel secure in yourself, you will have plenty of love to give others (as is reflected in the Buddhist-inspired concept of "self-compassion"). Or, as Aristotle put it, "All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feelings for himself." So what is love??????? Now that I’m done talking about the kinds of love let’s move on and look at the two different schools of thought. These two schools of thought cut across the different kinds of love hence why I took you through it earlier on. The first one I will talk about is the scriptural one. I will be a bit bias and visit the Holy Bible since I’m a Christian. Apologies to my readers from the other religions. I take the scriptural reading from 1Corithians 13:1-13 (NKJV) and it reads “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” So what is love???????? The second school of thought is by a guy I listened to from an audio I received from a friend who did not introduce himself hence I can’t really acknowledge him but big ups to him wherever he is and it reads; “It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. May be God want us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Love is when you take away the feeling; the passion and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go. When the door of happiness closes, another door opens but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with; never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had. It is true that we don’t know what we’ve got till we lose it. But it is also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives. Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they love you back. Don’t expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart. But if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours. There are things you would love to hear that you will never hear from the person whom you would like to hear them from. But don’t be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from their heart. Never say goodbye if you still want to try. Never give up if you still think you can go on. Never say you don’t love a person anymore if you can’t let go. Love comes to those who still hope although they have been disappointed, to those who still believe although they have been betrayed, to those who still need to love although they have been hurt before and to those who have the courage and faith to build trust again. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone. But it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for Wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Hope you find someone that makes you smile” So what is love?????? Now what’s my take on all this? As a motivator and counselor I will say; For friendship, you might have a couple of friends. Some good and some bad. Some may claim they love you but will turn you down when you need their help the most. Again some may claim they love you but speak ill of you in your absence to your other friends backbiting you left right and center with nowhere to turn to. Again you may have a friend who can’t forgive you for the little offence yet claims he or she loves you. Funny enough you have to love them back despite all this. So what is love???? For family, you might have uncles, aunties, cousins, nephews , brothers, sisters and so on who will claim they love you but will speak ill of you in your absence to other family members gossiping left right and center with news of you everywhere. Some family members looking out for their own selfish interest as if they are looking out for you and yet still claim they love you. Surprisely you have to love them back despite all these. So what is love????? For relationship, you might be in a relationship with someone who is just interested in the favor he or she will get from you but still claims he or she loves you. Again you will be in a relationship with someone who claims he or she loves you but will tell you tomorrow that he or she will break up with you without thinking about it. Again you will be in a relationship with someone who claims he or she loves you but will change his or her what’s up display picture to another person’s own and change the status to my loving and caring boyfriend or girlfriend tomorrow. You still have to love them back despite all these. So what is love????? Not leaving out our work places, church, and school. For our work places you might have colleagues who speak ill of you in your absence. Sabotaging you to get a promotion and backbiting you to paint a good picture of themselves and so on. Despite all these they claim they love you. Again you have to love them back even though it hurts. For our churches there are a lot going on there. You are a church member who is to be promoted to the position of a Deacon or Deaconess but your church Elder tells the board you are not ready since there is a misunderstanding or grudge between you and the church Elder who claims he loves you. You are in the church choir and you had a misunderstanding with the choir master. Due to this you have left the choir whiles that special voice of yours is needed by the church but you still claim you love the church. Let love ourselves and everything will be fine. In school you might be having a text book which a friend is not having because he or she can’t afford to buy. He or she comes to you and you turn him or her down. Your friend is broke and you have some cash to spare but you refuse to give when your friend asks you yet you claim you love him or her. So what is love????? As a motivator and counselor, I know it tough to love them but you have to. I am going through similar issues. Some few minutes after I broke up with my girlfriend after 10months of relationship I wrote this message. I am not a saint. I am equally as guilty as you are. I fall short of all that I have written above. Together let’s work to love one another. So wherever you are just know that I understand you and we are in this together. So let’s still love them back no matter how much they hurt us or how bad it is. Let me now explain the definitions I gave earlier that are those that I coined. Love is a noun because it can be the name of something. Again love is an action word which makes it a verb. Love is infinite because it has so many meanings. Love is a chemistry because it brings some kind of belongingness and the feeling of some kind of emptiness in the absence of one another. As a motivator and counselor, after second thought I think I will side with the mathematical definition I coined earlier on and give it the Queen’s language version which is LOVE IS AMBIGUOUS!!!!!

I KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR WILL POWER, PLANS, GOALS, ASPIRATIONS OR DREAMS BUT NEVERTHELESS THE WILL OF GOD SHALL STAND!!!!!!

Hello guys, how are you all doing? Hope you all are doing good. It’s been a long time. I remember the last time I posted a message here was on 2nd. September, 2013. This didn’t mean I was not having any message to post but the time to sit down to write a message wasn’t there. The inspiration for this new message came a long time ago (somewhere last year after the message entitled “is it love, lust, obsession or I just see you as a friend”) but the time to sit down and write was the issue. On 25th. July, 2014 around 14hours GMT I happen to find myself sitting by a coconut seller at a junction near Papaye in Osu, Accra-Ghana, West Africa. I’m sure you might be thinking I was buying a coconut. Then I’m sorry your guess was wrong. What the hell at all was I doing there? I believe will be your next question. You will find out at the end of the message. God has given us a will power which allows us to make our own decisions, judgement, choices, do what we feel like doing without necessarily seeking his consent. So then what is wrong with someone telling me that he or she will like to become a coconut seller in future or he or she will like to become a medical doctor in future or he or she will like to become a pilot in future or he or she will like to become a nurse in future and so on? You will find out at the end of the message. Now with this foundation in place let me start constructing the five storey building. Don’t worry I will finish very soon. It’s express!!!!!!! (the same meaning as the usage of express at the passport office) Many times we do plan our lives hoping for it to follow a line. But sometimes they don’t follow that line and you begin to wonder why? Asking yourself questions, day in and day out. Sometimes we do end up questioning God. Asking God why he allowed it to go that way knowing well that you prayed about it that is asking God to let your plans come to pass. Let’s say I just meet a friend and during a conservation I ask him or her that where do you want to see yourself in the next ten years? Then he or she begins to give me a long list of expectations. For example I will be the President of Ghana in the next ten years with assets like lands, cars, buildings, factories and a whole lot. I will be married to the most beautiful lady on the planet with four children; two handsome boys and two beautiful girls. It is a good plan, goal, dream or aspiration and the majority will go for it. What about the minority? Looking at the current state of the nation some will not like to fill the shoe of the president even if it is in the next twenty years. With a portion of a loan agreement going into sanitary pads for senior high schools, the dollar, pound, euro currencies soaring high in terms of their cedi equivalent, inflation figures flying high like an eagle, strikes upon strikes, demonstrations upon demonstrations, the economic hardships are so obvious. I don’t want to sound political but I have to give you this fact to proceed with my message. Let me sight another example. Let’s say you ask me where I want to see myself in the next ten years, I will tell you that I will be in the cockpit of a Lufthansa airliner flying to Berlin with three hundred and sixty-five passengers and six crews including myself on board (pilot). I will also be married to the most beautiful lady on the planet with six adorable children following me like the Black Stars team. That is such a wild one but it is good and the majority will go for it. Again what about the minority? There are so many reasons why the minority wouldn’t go for it and one of them is that they might die too quick. With the disappearance of the Malaysian airliner, the crashing of another Malaysian airliner, the crashing of the Taiwan airliner and the disappearance and crashing of an Algerian airliner, some will not like to venture into such a profession. But let me tell you something and that is every job is risky. Tell me the job and I will tell you how risky it is. But anyway that is not the bone of contention here. So let me get back to the topic before I get distracted. To cut the long story short, some will like to become president, pilot, nurse, doctor, engineers and so on in the next ten years and everyone will like to be somebody big in the next years. But have you asked yourself what God think about all that or you don’t even care about his thought. Then let me tell you that whether you care or not his will shall stand at the end of the day. It’s look like I’m going too far away so let me bring it close. Let’s say I ask you what is your plan for tomorrow? I expect a lot of answers like you will go to work, school, church and so on after which you will come back home and relax or go and play football, FIFA soccer game, table tennis, basket ball and so on or you will visit some friends but God can cause something different to happen that day and you will be like my plans has been messed up. God controls everything. Although sometimes your plans come through but that doesn’t mean that God has no hand in it or you are in control. God just allowed it to happen. I AM NOT SAYING THAT YOU DON’T HAVE FAITH IN GOD. No, I know with God nothing is impossible and with faith in God you will get what you want but on a condition that what you want is in the will of God. And it is not that I am not a Christian or I don’t have faith. No, I am a Christian and have faith in God. Let me teach you something small about the will of God. The will of God is in two forms. We have the perfect will of God and the submissive will of God. In simple terms, the submissive will of God occurs when you want something and you tell God and he is like that something is not good for you and you keep on persisting and God gives it to you. In that case it wasn’t his will but he gave it to you. And the consequences that come with it are so unbearable that you wish that you have not asked. But when you come back to him to give you what he wanted for you, he is always ready to give it to you which makes him forever loving and merciful and you will really enjoy yourself well after. The perfect will of God comes in when you accept what he want for you and life is really good after. It doesn’t mean that bad times will not come, they will come but he will take you out of them all. For further explanation and understanding, get yourself a Holy Bible and read the book of Numbers chapter twenty-two downwards and you will get the whole scenario. Another instance is when Jesus was going to be crucified, he prayed and said Father I wish this cup by pass me but nevertheless let your will be done. This was Jesus speaking here. I don’t want you to feel as if you are in church and I am giving you a sermon. I’m just trying to motivate you and you will see that at the end of the message. IT IS NOT WRONG TO HAVE SUCH A PLAN, DREAM, GOAL OR ASPIRATION. The question is, IS IT THE WILL OF GOD? OR IS IT PART OF GOD’S PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE HERE ON EARTH? DOES THIS ALSO MEAN THAT WE SHOULDN’T PLAN OR HAVE DREAMS, GOALS OR ASPIRATIONS? Since at the end of the day God might end up doing something different according to his plans for your life. I’m using the word might because sometimes our plans do coincide with God’s plan for us. Someone once said that if you fail to plan then you plan to fail. Also the Holy Bible says that horses are prepared for battle but victory comes from the Lord. The word prepared there means that there should be some planning and hence the preparation. This means that in life you should have your PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS. DOES THIS ALSO MEAN THAT WE SHOULDN’T PRAY ABOUT OUR PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS? Since God’s will shall stand at the end of the day no matter the prayer. And you say to yourself that “WHAT CAN COME CAN COME” as Ayertey Powers said and was beaten miserably by Bukom Banku. In this case the devil will come in and destroy your plans, goals, dreams or aspirations for you. So you should still pray about your plans, goals, dreams or aspirations so that the good Lord who has began the good work in you can take it to a successful end still looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith!!!!!!!!!! Let me say something small about future career or profession or job. For example, somebody’s future career or profession or job is to become a pilot or medical doctor or nurse or an engineer. Then it should be something that you are passionate about, something you don’t struggle doing, something you feel comfortable with, something you like and above all you love doing. I'm not saying give up on your PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS but just make sure it is in the will of God.That's all!!! About the coconut seller, I was just sitting there watching how he was selling the coconut intermittently, saying to myself that if that was my job, first of all I will be struggling, secondly by the end of the first week I would have lost all my left fingers, thirdly by the end of the third week I would have lost my left hand, fourthly by the end of the month I would have lost my left arm because I can’t cut the coconut the way he is doing it. I was also equally writing today’s message as I sat there and that is how I got the time to write today’s message entitled “I KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR WILL POWER, PLANS, GOALS, DREAMS OR ASPIRATIONS BUT NEVERTHELESS THE WILL OF GOD SHALL STAND”. As a motivator and counsellor, what I think is best is for us all is to add God’s will, plan or purpose for our lives to our will power, plans, goals, dreams or aspirations. Whatever they are, always say God willing and remember the will of God shall always stand!!!!Should your will power, plans, goals, dreams or aspirations coincide with God’s will or plan or purpose for your life, accept it and move on. Should your will power, plans, goals, dreams or aspirations not coincide with God’s will, plan or purpose for your life, accept it and move on. After asking God your plans, goals, dreams or aspirations, requests, needs, wants and so on in a form of prayer let this be your final words FATHER NEVERTHELESS LET YOUR WILL BE DONE CONCERNING MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME.AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!

IS IT LOVE, LUST, OBSESSION OR I JUST SEE YOU AS A FRIEND AND WHETHER A RELATIONSHIP CAN BE BASED ON ANY OF THESE?

This is the second part of the message on RELATIONSHIP. To really enjoy this message, I will suggest you first read the message on relationship. You will remember very well that I stated in the beginning of the message on relationship that I have never been in relationship before and that the knowledge I had on relationship was from experiences of friends who were in a relationship. Well, it’s no more the case now. I got into a relationship some few weeks ago and it lasted for just two days. Yes, I mean just two days. You might be wondering what happened? Right!!!!! And that brings us to today’s message “IS IT LOVE, LUST, OBSESSION OR I JUST SEE YOU AS A FRIEND AND WHETHER A RELATIONSHIP CAN BE BASED ON ANY OF THESE?”. Let me try to define some key words in today’s message. According to the Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, Third Edition, LOVE means to like another adult very much and be romantically and sexually attracted to them or to have strong feelings of liking a friend or person in your family. From the same source, LUST is a very strong sexual desire, OBSESSION means someone that you think about all the time and a FRIEND is a person who you know well and who you like a lot, but who is usually not a member of your family. Now with these definitions I believe we can set the ball rolling. Which of these should be the basis for a relationship? Can one propose for a relationship if he or she sees someone as just a FRIEND? For instance, you’ve been friends for two years and have gotten to know each other very well. Can you go ahead and propose for relationship even though you are just friends? May be you love that someone as just a friend or like that someone as just a friend. Can you still propose? Well, as a motivator and counselor, this is what I suggest you do. You can go ahead and propose for a relationship. Friendship forms the basis of a relationship and not LOVE. I believe that love grows with time, comes naturally and diminishes with time but God’s love is everlasting. With time you will be in love with that someone and you will start seeing him or her as more than a friend. You just need to be patient. Can one propose for a relationship if he or she is OBSESSED about someone? Well, as a motivator and counselor, I will say no because you can cause more harm than good to yourself and to that someone. This obsession can make you more jealous than you can think of and in your attempt of dealing with it you can cause harm to yourself or to that someone. Some even go to the extent of killing because of obsession. Rather what I will encourage you to do is to pray to God to remove that feeling from you. I believe in prayer a lot and it works. All you need to do is to believe and pray. Can one propose for a relationship if he or she LUST after someone? Well, as a motivator and counselor, I will again say no because your interest in that someone will die out immediately you lose what that someone have that you are lusting after. For instance, let’s say you lust after someone who is beautiful or handsome. When that person loses his or her handsomeness or beauty, you will leave immediately because what you are lusting after is no more there. Let me create another scenario. You meet a lady who is improperly dressed with her breast and buttocks well exposed. Naturally as a man you get sexually aroused but if you lose control and lust after her. Immediately you succeed in having sex with her that ends it and you wouldn’t want to have anything to do with her again. That is lust at work. Finally, can one propose for a relationship if he or she LOVES someone? Well, as a motivator and counselor, I will say a big yes. No questions about this? Right!!!! Ok. Well, I’m interested in the other side of the coin and that is what if that someone doesn’t LOVE YOU OR JUST LUST AFTER YOU OR OBSESSED ABOUT YOU OR JUST SAW YOU AS A FRIEND, WILL YOU STILL PROPOSE FOR RELATIONSHIP? After all that we’ve learnt, you will all agree with me that YOU SHOULD GO AHEAD AND PROPOSE RELATIONSHIP TO THAT SOMEONE THAT JUST SAW YOU AS A FRIEND AND FORGET ABOUT THE OTHERS. LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL AND NOT RECIPROCAL. You can be in love with someone who does not love you but rather just see you as a friend. Someone can also be in love with you and you will not be in love with that someone but rather you just see that someone as just a friend. So you can love someone without that person necessarily loving you. In a nut shell, my relationship lasted for just two days because of this same issue. I’m back to being single again and I’ve learnt my lesson. So as a motivator and counselor I will encourage that you get into relationship with the one that loves you and you just see as a friend and with time you will be in love again!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SATISFACTION

I’m back after a long break. I had to get rid of some exams and a project work. But I’m through with it all so expect more messages. Back in Junior High School, I had a friend who we knew as the ladies’ man. He was always fooling around with ladies. He became popular with so many nicknames. He was also very intelligent and got the attention of almost everyone including the teachers. He told me he had committed almost every sin before. I doubted it so I made him explain himself. He said, first of all, he was sexually immoral. That is he watches pornography, press the breast and buttocks of ladies and run away. Back in the days, video cassettes players were used to watch videos. Also we had video rental shops around. He told me that he had finished watching all the pornographic films at a particular video rental shop and that whenever he goes to rent a pornographic video cassette from that shop, he realises that he has watched it before. He told me he started fornicating at the age of ten and at the age of fourteen he was caught having sex with a lady. Due to that he changed and turned into a homosexual for two years. I just couldn’t believe all that I was hearing but he told me he was telling me the truth. He also told me he had drunk alcohol before. He told me he followed a lady to a drinking spot and tasted alcohol for first time only to be carried to his room. He never took it again because he didn’t like the experience. For smoking, he tasted it for first time when another friend lighted a piece of a cain and he sucked the smoke into his mouth and started coughing. Again he never smoked again because he didn’t like the experience. For stealing, he stole for first time in nursery. He stole a friend’s toy and was caught and punished. Again he didn’t like the experience so he never stole again. And the sins go on and on and on. But through all this, he told me that, HE WAS NEVER SATISFIED. He told me that most often he felt regret and guilty after committing some of the sins. He wished he could stop but couldn’t till one day. He told me that he fornicated one day and felt a very strong feeling of regret. This made him changed from all his bad ways he said. He stopped fooling around with ladies, stealing, fornicating etc. This happened at the age of sixteen. He gave his life to Christ at the first altar call at church in Senior High School by confessing Lord Jesus and accepting him into his life as stated in the Holy Bible at Romans 10:9-10 and I quote “that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God had raised Him from the dead you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. (NKJV)”. Since then his life has never been the same. He is now nine years old in Christ. So if you are in a similar situation, as a motivator and counsellor, I will encourage you not to give up and to keep on praying and God will surely visit you one day and take you out of that. Also get yourself occupied with activities at church as that will also take your mind off certain things. After my friend gave his life to Christ, things started to turn around. It was then that he realised where the satisfaction was. HE TOLD ME THAT HE IS NOW SATISFIED. There is total satisfaction in Christ Jesus. So if you want to enjoy this satisfaction then I will encourage you to give your life to Christ. It’s simple. Just say this prayer after me Lord Jesus I thank you for coming to me today. Lord Jesus, forgive me for all my sins and come into my life. Lord Jesus, I accept you as my Lord and personal saviour. Come into my heart and take control over my life. I surrender my will to you. Come and direct my path. I thank you Lord Jesus for coming into my life in Jesus name. Amen!!! Congratulations and welcome to the world of satisfaction in Christ Jesus. Now find for yourself a Bible believing church and attend. Also don’t forget to pray without season. Finally, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God and the sweet fellowship of the Holy Spirit, be with you now and forever more. Amen!!!!!!!

SOMEHOW

SOMEHOW
This is the second part of the message “To The Christians”. Before I add sugar to the cup of coffee, do you believe in the existence of heaven and hell? If yes, then let continue but if no, then find yourself a Holy Bible and read the whole book of Revelation, after visit www.scholum.wordpress.com for the story of a young girl who died for 23 hours and got the chance to tour heaven and hell with God and came back to life to tell her story. Going to heaven after death is a gain but going to hell after death is a great loss. Have you ever thought of losing it all or gaining it all?
Going to heaven or hell is SOMEHOW. Why do I say so? There lived a certain woman who was a chorister in a certain church. The woman was leading a righteous life and one day the pastor offended her but instead of telling the pastor, she kept it to herself and did not forgive the pastor. She unfortunately died after sometime. But all members of the church thought she was in heaven due to her righteous life. Sadly she was in hell and nobody knew till God revealed it to one of the church members through a dream. In the dream she was asked how she got there and she said because of unforgiveness. All because she did not forgive the pastor.
Now let talk about the two thieves crucified together with Jesus. Now according to the Holy Bible in the book of Luke 23:39-43 and I quote “Then one of the criminals who were hanged blasphemed Him, saying, “If You are the Christ, save Yourself and us.”But the other, answering, rebuked him, saying, “Do you not even fear God, seeing you are under the same condemnation? “And we indeed justly, for we receive the due reward of our deeds; but this Man has done nothing wrong.” Then he said to Jesus, “Lord, remember me when You come into Your kingdom.” And Jesus said to him, “Assuredly, I say to you, today you will be with Me in Paradise.””””(NKJV)Amen. Comparing the two situations, you realise that the choirister was a leading a righteous life and one sinful move which is unforgiveness quickly sent her to hell. Morever, you realise that the thief was leading a sinful life and one righteous move which was condemning the blasphemy, fearing God and accepting he had sinned sent him to heaven. We are not different from the thief and the choirister. We are human beings like them. So this could equally happen to us. Do you see why I said going to heaven or hell is SOMEHOW? I’m not telling you this to discourage you but to motivate you to keep on pressing towards the goal of serving God well in truth and in spirit, making disciples for Christ and going to heaven with them. When you fall, quickly rise up and get back into the race of pressing towards the goal. But if you remain there, you will lose the strength to continue and I pray that never be your portion. So step on the accelerator because we are almost there. We are in the end time.
In a nut shell I quote “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.” Amen (NKJV) 1 Corinthians 15:58.

COCKISH BEHAVIOUR

COCKISH BEHAVIOR
Wondering where this coinage “cockish” came from? Well, it’s my coinage and it simply means the behaviour of a cock. I had wanted to give this message to my readers some few months ago but thought it wise to deliver it a day after father’s day.
Cockish behaviour is the behaviour of some fathers. Pardon me for being harsh on these fathers who behave cockishly. These fathers get the strength, charisma, courage, and endurance to get a woman pregnant but refuse to accept the responsibility of taking care of the woman and the child. Such cockish behaviour should not be encouraged. The funny and sad aspect of this, is that, it doesn’t end on the first woman but they move on to the next woman immediately the first get pregnant and this continues till they have no more strength to continue on that expedition. This behaviour is not different from the cock which crosses any hen which comes along it path. But the cock’s own ends in a soup. When these fathers are weak and can’t continue their expedition they start searching for their children, not to take care of them but to be taken care of especially when their children are well to do, reaping what they’ve not sown. These well to do children got mothers with henish behaviours which is feeding, protecting, sheltering and providing the basic needs for their young ones. The hen protects it chicks from the hawk and other predators, feeds the chicks regularly and provide shelter by keeping chicks under it’s wings. Henish is also my coinage so don’t bother searching for it in the dictionary and it simply means the behaviour of a hen.
As a motivator and counsellor, I will urge fathers with henish behaviour to keep it up and those with cockish behaviour to desist from it as was also said by British Prime Minister yesterday. Moreover, victims of cockish behaviour fathers should kindly find a place in their hearts to forgive them and repented cockish behaviour fathers should also advice others in it to stop and search for their children as the father of Kelly Rowland did yesterday.
Finally, better late than never, as a motivator and counsellor, I wish all fathers and to be fathers, happy father’s day!!!!!!!!!!!!

TURNING POINTS OF LIFE

TURNING POINTS OF LIFE
I was pondering over which message to give my readers this month but nothing was coming to mind. So I decided to let this month go by hoping to peradventure get a message for my readers next month but something unexpectedly happened to me. I was charging the battery of my phone with a universal charger when it suddenly exploded. The battery got destroyed with the universal charger so my phone is useless now. But few hours before the incident my phone was functioning correctly. This is an example of turning point. Now what do I mean by turning point of Life?
Life is like a game of soccer. When the team you support is leading, things seem to be going on well for you and you don’t expect the team you support to lose the game. But when there is sudden turnaround of event and the opposing team equalises and takes the lead and the game ends. There is also a corresponding turnaround of physical and emotional state of being. This brings sadness to the one whose team took the lead first and happiness to the one who support the opposing team. So it is in life. Sometimes things seem to be going on well with you in life and you don’t expect any misfortune to come your way. But things suddenly go wrong resulting in a turnaround in your physical and emotional state of being. You become sad and perplexed, not knowing what to do.
As a motivator and counsellor, I will urge you to put what happened behind you and think of what is ahead of you. What do I mean? Let say you wrote an exam made of five papers and you failed four and passed one or a beloved one passed away or you lost a precious item or lost a position and so on. If you cry the whole day it will not make things right. If you sleep the whole day it will not make things right. If you drink alcohol the whole day it will still not make things right and so on. So the best thing is to put it behind you and move on because when you remain there you sit on your success. I know it is not easy and it is so painful but you still have to try and put it behind you. Sometimes you try and it doesn’t work but you have to keep on trying and with time you will be able to put it behind you. Always learn from the past and put it behind you. Thinking of what is ahead of you comes into play when you go back to the drawing board and start all over again. As you starting, you pray to your creator to see you through and strengthen you as you make the move.
Sometimes, it is the other way round that is things seem not to be going on well for you and there is sudden turn around and things start going on well for you. A sudden strong feeling of joy occupies your physical and emotional states of being.
At that climax, as a motivator and counsellor I will urge you to give thanks to your creator.
Finally these turning points in life make us matured and experienced in life so is not all about sadness. Also never feel you are the only one going through this turning point of life because we are all going through it.
A coffin maker prays to his or her creator for his or her coffin to be bought but that can only happen when someone dies. A drug seller prays to his or her creator for his or her drug to be bought but that can only happen when someone falls sick.
In a nut shell, turning points of life are inevitable but remember your creator is always with you and will always see you true, so don’t give up on life because of these turning points, because if you are not dead you don’t know what you will get!!!!!!!